We all want to be happier. This is a fact of life. The inalienable rights of all people include “the pursuit of happiness” along with life and liberty, according to the Declaration of Independence. In “The Pursuit of Happiness” (2006), Will Smith’s character mentions that it’s interesting the founding fathers chose the wording “pursuit of happiness” implying that not everyone can actually achieve happiness. The problem with our culture is that advertising has brainwashed us to think that “the pursuit of stuff” is the same thing as “the pursuit of happiness.” This confusion leads us on paths that have the opposite effect. While we think the new car / tv / video game will bring us happiness, we’re making ourselves miserable by spending long hours away from the ones we love.
Working at a job you enjoy or running your own business will hopefully lower the suffering in your pursuit. However, no matter what you do for the money, there’s always something you’d rather be doing, or people you’d rather be spending time with.
This brings me to the subject of frugality. While attempting to be frugal, you will still be miserable if you do not change your thinking. The desire of material goods causes suffering, and the happiness of getting what you want passes quickly. So if being frugal means never getting that fleeting happiness even though you are still suffering from the desire, you will be even further from happiness.
Happiness is a state of mind, which means no material object will will sustain it. You need to learn to be happy with what you have instead of what you wish you had.
I challenge you to cut your budget to the bone for a month, or even a week. This exercise will remind you of what you NEED. It will also teach you what you do with your free time, which may guide you to what makes you happy.
As a gamer, I have historically always had a game or two on the horizon that I was looking forward to. This reached its peak in 2012, and it made that year miserable for me. Lately, I’ve been focusing my time on the games I already own, many of which have free online play.
So far, this has been a rough year for me. There have been a lot of big expenses that were neither frivolous nor fun, but on the other hand, they would have been even more painful if I wasn’t already so frugal.